Have you ever thought about being sex-positive or wondered if you already are?
Do you believe consensual sex is a healthy part of life, and that we have the right to experience pleasure how and when we choose to?
Do you believe everyone has the right to access inclusive sex education and sexual health services?
Do you support others’ sexual desires and practices, even if they differ from yours, provided they are done safely and consensually?
Do you believe we each have the right to take ownership of our bodies and sexual choices?
Are you committed to having a healthy attitude towards sex, even if you don’t feel 100% there yet?
If you answered yes to all these questions, you have a sex-positive mindset! Whoop whoop!
A sex-positive mindset is about encouraging yourself and others to enjoy their sexuality. This involves a lot of conversation about pleasure but also fighting for better education and access to services for ALL. Unfortunately, there is still so much inequality and injustice around sex and we still have lots of work to do. It’s about recognising the challenges and feeling confident to ask for support to face them. Remember that this is a gradual process, it doesn’t happen overnight.
This concept is not new. Reich brought this up in the 1920s and it really emerged in the 1960s with birth control & women’s sexual autonomy. This revolution was happening at the same time as the rise of gay rights, feminism, and civil rights.
It has been slowly growing since then, but it in the last decade or so it skyrocketed. What happened about a decade ago? Social media! It is a great tool for education – it just needs to be used properly. That being said, these social platforms are not sex-positive as they treat these subjects and concepts as “sensitive subjects” and censor them.
The point is, sex positivity is not about having loads of sex or not having any boundaries, it’s about raising awareness and de-stigmatising what social media and society have created around sex and the taboos; people are more comfortable talking about their finances than they are talking about sexuality which is at the center of humanity. Think about that for a second.
Be kind to one another,
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